9 Tips to Overcome Your Shyness

Nine pieces of advice were presented for those who have trouble appearing in front of others and want to fix their shyness. In addition to public presentations, some people may find that they get nervous when talking to several people at work or school.
The following advice is something that a once very shy person learned when he overcame his shyness.

1: Use your subconscious mind.

Everything happens in our own mind first, and then it becomes reality. Therefore, you must first have the right beliefs in your subconscious mind. Repeatedly remind yourself (or say aloud), “I am confident at all times!” It is important to repeatedly be aware of (or say out loud), “I am confident at all times! You can also try to visualize yourself being confident in social situations. Another way is to try self-hypnosis. This item is the most important.

2: Interact with people who are positive and who can help you.

If you hang out with people who justify their shyness to you, you will never get over it. If you can find a friend who will critique you rather than mock you and who also encourages you to take on challenges, never let that person go.

3: Cultivate your comfort zone.

Wherever you go, you will need to try new things. You may feel a little intimidated every time you try something new, but this is the only way to develop yourself. If you are going to overcome shyness, it is inevitable that you will have to go out into the world and put yourself in situations where you will not feel very comfortable. It is important to keep challenging yourself.

4: Move forward one step at a time.

It is not the best practice for a very shy person to suddenly give a speech in front of a crowd of 1,000 people, even if it is to try to develop himself. This type of therapy is called “flood therapy,” and it will only work under carefully controlled circumstances. When practicing public speaking, try speaking to five people first. If that is okay, increase the number of people to 10, then 20, and so on. You should grow slowly, but not too slowly.

5: Don’t take things too seriously.

Shy people tend to take things too seriously. For example, when giving a presentation, they worry, “What if I forget my lines halfway through, or my voice shakes? Or, if you’re in the middle of a joke, you might ask yourself, “What if no one laughs at me? I worry. But even if things go as badly as you expect, will those situations kill you? Of course not. Try to look at things in a positive light.

6: Shyness is a sign of pride.

Shy people spend too much time worrying about themselves. They worry about how others see them, and they are constantly looking at their surroundings in an attempt to act well in the moment. But the truth is, others don’t really pay that much attention to you. After all, just like you, they are thinking about themselves all the time. So from now on, spend less time thinking about yourself and more time thinking about others.

7: Don’t overanalyze

Don’t think too much about overcoming your shyness. If you think about it for a moment, you will realize that there is no point in thinking about it. However, when you actually put yourself in social situations, you may become conscious of “overcoming shyness” again, but any phobia is not a “brain activity” to be overcome; it is an action that is worth taking. By challenging yourself to feel a little scared, you will stop this meaningless thought.

8: Enjoy being alone.

While shy people often feel uncomfortable in groups, they also have a hard time acting alone. So, try going out alone, going to a movie or out to dinner. I believe that confident people enjoy being alone in public places.

9: Read a good book (or blog).

It is also important to read books that can help you overcome your shyness. Reading books about people who have overcome their shyness can be encouraging and help build self-confidence.

Satoshi

Hello, I’m Satoshi. I’ve been working as a staff member for an organization for over a decade. During that time, I’ve had various experiences, from launching new businesses to streamlining operations using information I’ve gathered from the internet and my own experiences. Of course, I’ve been successful with the help of colleagues and superiors, and I’m grateful to them. Nowadays, I find myself in a position where people from various backgrounds ask me for advice and share their knowledge. However, being constantly approached has made me realize that I need to protect my own time. So, I’ve decided to start a blog called ‘Satoshi Lab’ to share knowledge. I hope that by writing about my thoughts and experiences, people will enjoy reading and find it helpful in their own journeys.